A couple of weeks ago, I attended a peaceful rally in support of BLM and I sent my extended family a photo of my grandson and me holding our signs. My brother responded with, "Here's my sign" and attached a picture of a handwritten paper that said, "End White Guilt." Part of my motivation for taking this course is I've realized how steeped in racist and white privileged culture my whole life has been. I'm tired of dealing (or more correctly, not dealing) with racist comments and attitudes from my family members. While recognizing and responding to systemic racism can be motivating, I think I strayed into toxic White guilt when responding to my brother. I immediately texted back with an anti-racist rant, which then led into a back and forth text war with him. He brought up all kinds of ugly, like saying George Floyd had a felonious past so clearly the cops had a reason for their treatment of him (UGH!!!!) and that reverse discrimination is a thing, etc. I'm trying to figure out if I need to just accept that he's not going to change, or whether I should try to engage with him without pushing his emotional buttons. Hard to say - since we know each other so well, we both know how to get under each other's skin.