I recently had a conversation with my brother and his wife regarding racism and I think that I was acting from a space of white exceptionalism and toxic white guilt. I was trying to show them how racist they are even though they don't see it. And I realized this was possibly coming from myself wanting to appear to be "one of the good ones" or of being more informed then they are. I think in the process I made them feel small and I triggered them because it was as if I was making them question whether or not they are good people. I think these are important things to consider and conversations to have but, I need to be sure that I am not acting from a space of judgement of them or shaming them for where they are in their journey of self realization regarding their own biases and racism.