When the Covid stay-at-home situation started over 3 months ago, my family began a weekly Zoom call. That reminds me, tonite is the night. Typically, my favorite thing is politics and current events discussions. However, over the past few years, my family has extended via a couple of marriages, to include white folks (I'm black) and I'm not feeling comfortable talking about the current state of affairs regarding police brutality and punishment, protesting, knocking down statues, BLM, the president - all of it - in "mixed company." I don't feel free to talk the way I would if it was just my black family, as I worry my commentary might alienate my new family and that's not ok with me. However, I feel stifled and that annoys me too. It suddenly occurs to me that I could be perpetuating the notion that we need to keep quiet about these matters to keep the peace, rather than risk the discomfort of "going there."
It was the all white meeting that made me think of my family Zoom meetings. I do believe that an all white meeting is justified and required in order to talk, commiserate and just feel freer to express. I'm not sure that those discussions would have the same freedoms and truth if black people were there.
I'm not sure that the two situations can be compared, but as I struggle with my willingness to speak my mind with a mixed family dynamic, I can appreciate the necessity of white-only meetings to encourage deeper discussions.