I'm a good listener for my own good or bad. I think I'm connecting dots for how to make relationships with people from other marginalized group. But I did feel tightness in my chest watching the last video.
I've listened to so many like "Tim." Offering the space and understanding of their hurts, confusion, and anger. Sometimes I was willing, other times not, but they would just keep going without asking. Because I know all stories are worth listening to. They are real.
As I write this now, I realize now I know that I can say NO and not listen. Those times when I was unwillingly to listen was mostly with white people. By not saying no, I'm participating in their entitled behavior.