Since starting this training, I've noticed how much more vocal I am about calling out people in my personal life when they make statements I believe to be racist, or contributing to tone policing and the systemic racism patterns. However, I will admit that I am struggling at the moment with the idea of changes, and how that will affect my romantic relationship. I refuse to go back to who I used to be. I understand that will not be possible, nor responsible. And I can imagine my relaitonship with my partner being negatively impacted, because he is non-racist, but not anti-racist. I'm questioning whether I can remain long term with an amazing partner who is fully supportive but with who I feel disengagement regarding social justice. Is it not my responsibility to have him move further on the allyship scale? Is it possible to do this without making him feel as if I am trying to change him? Ironically, I struggle more with this aspect of change and advocacy, than I do with engaging with family members...
