I grew up in a pretty standard middle class white family. both parents were entrepreneurs who didn't go to college. All the holidays were standard american/ white holidays. I was told we were 3/4 german and 1/4 french canadian. I wanted to cling to those, research and take on some of the cultural aspects because I never really felt like american culture was anything but shallow and capitalistic. I think I've realized that If I was any color other than white, I may have not have lived through the three times I was arrested for trespassing in abandoned buildings or rooftops in down town. I know my parents feared for me as their child, but never because of the color of my skin. I have definitely benefited from white privilege. it's scary to me that people choose to not see it. ( I actually watched a video today by two Black brothers/ twins that think white privilege isn't real/ was made up by the left/ actually don't use the term correctly/ are giving false information/ justifying rightwing racists- It's really scary and makes my stomach turn). I think growing up as a white male, I was allowed to be ignorant because I was part of the norm. in my late teens I started to understand most of the women in my life were abused, assaulted or raped. It started my path to understanding many of the other injustices of the world (racism, homophobia, body shaming) and acting to change these situations. Now, as a father, I have more intense emotions, fears and stomach turning sickness from seeing whats been happening, taught, covered up, continues to happen within a system that was set up against people of color for the benefit of whites. Our daughter is familiar with many of our friends of color, we read books with POC, different kinds of music etc. We aim to make her aware of the sick cycles of the US. I fear for what may happen within our society. There are lots of good things happening with the statues coming down and some law enforcement agencies being dismantled or reeducated, but There is a long road ahead to ACTUAL systemic change and I am sure more white violence will occur down that road.