Regarding the video about white people talking about race, the interviewees responded much like how I would have in the last couple weeks before I started reading and training. They seemed like they were walking on eggshells and had an uncomfortable or shameful tone. I think this is common for white people regarding talking about race. There usually isn't much to talk about except for privilege, since white people don't really have anything unique or cultural to connect to the white race as a whole. If they are not aware of their privilege, there probably isn't much they can think of talking about.
Other than that, there weren't other specific experiences I could relate to in the videos that I can remember. I was very interested in hearing every perspective and could feel some of their emotions from their stories and experiences. One thing that stood out to me a lot to me was the significance of having a Native name. Having a unique name tied to survival and persistence of your people is so powerful. In contrast, my name literally means female sheep. There's no significance other than being a popular name at the time I was born. Another thing that stood out was the mention of a "bamboo ceiling", which I didn't realize existed. Once it was described though, I realized I don't know of many, or any, Asian CEOs or others at the very top of the workplace ladder. Now that I am aware of this, it is glaringly obvious that this is another problem that needs to be addressed. The last one I'll mention is the experience of the black woman with waiting in a hotel lobby, being asked to prove she was a guest. I can't imagine how "other" that would make someone feel. I would be so angry if I saw that happening. I've been watching some videos circulating about mostly middle-aged women harassing people of color at stores, and I keep thinking about what I should do. I'm not sure if intervening is the right thing to do sometimes. Maybe just recording? I don't know what a victim would want. I suppose the first thing I could do is ask the victim what they want me to do, but that isn't always possible. I think I'll reflect more on this later.
Reflecting on my own identity:
As a white female, I know that my skin color makes me privileged in ways that I am not even aware, since I don't need to think about race very often in my daily life. But the identity of a young white woman has its specific stereotypes. According to this study, these are the stereotypes of my identity:
"White women were perceived as attractive, blonde, ditsy, shallow, privileged, sexually available, and appearance focused. We concluded that White women are ethnically marked. Stereotypes of White women are consistent with media images of White women."
Sounds like these were all taken directly from Mean Girls, which, now that I think about it, actually may be in large part responsible for these stereotypes due to its popularity and quotability. Some of these stereotypes can have negative consequences: ditsy, shallow, appearance-focused, sexually-available. These are stereotypes that white women can internalize and try to fit. The "ditsy" stereotype is the most insulting in my opinion, but "sexually-available" might be the most damaging in terms of influencing the behaviors of others toward that person. But, stereotypes don't necessarily have to be bad in order to be annoying. Being stereotyped for something good, such as the Asian stereotype of being good at math, is also frustrating. It's annoying for someone to think they know anything about you without ever talking to you, especially if it's something you can't control. If you were to wear a shirt with a band name on it you like, then sure, that is an intentional signal and maybe you want people to think of you as fitting a certain subculture. Maybe sometimes a person WANTS others to assume something about them. But if others are making assumptions that have nothing to do with what is in your control, it is incredibly annoying.