It was hard to relate to a lot of the videos, because I've never experienced anything like that. I've been the benefactor of a lot of the oppression that has happened in this country and the world. So it was hard to watch people discuss what I have done to perpetuate that. I think about the times that I was micro aggressive. I think back to a time when I was being pressured by a bunch of privileged white men who I consider fraternity brothers pressuring me to say the n word because they had never heard me say it before. It's hard to think about, but I understand the necessity of it.
My light skin has absolutely benefited me. I was able to date in college. I just had a conversation with my ex from college that because I support BLM, she is ashamed that she ever dated me. Well that means that the part of my personality that she found most attractive was the fact that I was white, and vice versa. I have a job, I am in a nice apartment, I work at a Predominately White Institution. I could go on and on about all the ways that I have benefited from being white. However, one of the many ideas that surprised me was the idea of Black Latino/a people being ascribed to Black culture when that isn't their culture, necessarily. The family with a daughter that is lighter skinned than her sister and discriminating against her surprised me. It reinforces the idea that rich White men created race and then ascribe people to those races based on their own definition of that creation. "You have black skin, therefore we shall call you Black. You have brown skin therefore we shall call you Latino."