Mercedes Peters I think nailed it. We have not seen the change in race relations that is possible because white people aren't willing to deal with the issue every day. As Mercedes points out, we don't have to. Being the default, we can put the issue away for as long as we want. Talking about racism is exhausting, mentally fatiguing. Aside from a truly rare few, white people (even with the best intentions) don't attack racism every day, it is too hard. We (white people) need to get tougher and better at handling this toll. If talking about and fighting racism is exhausting to white people on the occasions we choose to engage in it, that exhaustion is a fraction of a glimpse of the mental fatigue experienced by those who deal with racism every day of their life and have no choice because of the color of their skin.